The other day I had a great conversation with a few clients about self-confidence.
One of my clients made a comment that self-confidence comes from seeing or achieving success.
And my response was, “Yes, but you have to have self-confidence in order to succeed.”
She nodded her agreement.
But that then left us with the question of, “How do you become more self-confident to achieve success if success builds confidence and you aren’t yet confident?”
My answer, “You lie to yourself.”
Ok…So you don’t so much lie to yourself as you do tell yourself the way you WANT to feel.
By thinking and acting a certain way, we can convince ourselves that we ARE a certain way.
So if you want to be confident, you need to tell yourself that you are great and confident and then ACT the part.
Even if the act seems forced at the beginning, at some point it will become what you truly feel and believe.
Here are some tips and articles to help you “fool” yourself into becoming more confident:
- Tips to help you build self-confidence
- An Unconventional Sign of Strength and Power
- Don’t let others bring you down
- Your Brain Is Really Pretty Stupid
What steps have you taken to make yourself more comfortable and confident in who you are?
Posted on April 13, 2014, in Mindset and tagged building self-confidence, positive mindset, positive self talk. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.
Hmmmmm this is interesting, kinda deep. 🙂 I kind of think back to when I first started lifting seriously. I didn’t have much confidence back then and now I have a lot. Did I have confidence before and it’s just more now? Or is it just by deciding that I really want something and setting out to do it that gave me confidence? Maybe you can create self-confidence when you don’t have it to begin with? When the goal is greater than yourself, you can accomplish amazing things.
I think you definitely gain self-confidence by pushing yourself to do something new. Taking on a new challenge and stepping outside our comfort zone can be a huge confidence boost!
If you’re able to work out with someone – friend, trainer, etc, and they provide encouragement, and believe in you, that would also help you build your own self-confidence. Then you go and help someone else believe in themselves!
Great point Ada! Having friends help and encourage is a great way to build confidence!