This past weekend I attend this Fit Business Conference thanks to Dennis.
Bedros, the organizer of the event, started the event off with probably the best stories of the weekend…
A story about CRABS.
In his story he spoke of talking to a crab fisherman who had a bucket of crabs.
In the bucket were crabs piled on top of one another…And one single crab crawling to get out of the bucket.
As the crab grasped the rim in an attempt to make a getaway, Bedros said to the fisherman that it looked like one was going to make an escape.
The fisherman told him to just wait and see what happened.
Because, just as the crab looked like it was going to escape, the other crabs grabbed it and pulled it back down into the bucket.
There are just certain feats of fitness that we can’t seem to accomplish on our own.
There are just certain tasks that seem to always thwart our best attempts.
But sometimes just a little friendly competition and support can get us there.
Sometimes you don’t realize you can lift more, run further or push faster until someone else tells you that you can or “forces” you to.
It isn’t that you didn’t believe you could it, it’s just that sometimes a little extra push from someone else encourages you to try just a little more than you did before.
While so many people, women especially, shy away from a little friendly competition, competition may be the extra SUPPORT they need to help them reach their goals.
When I work out with a friend, I don’t want to be the person that drags or slows down the workout. If we are running, I don’t want to be the person that says, “Let’s stop.” I want to make sure that no matter what, I go as far and as fast as we can
I don’t want to let the other person down.
If my workout partner can lift more or do more reps, I always push myself to keep up with them as much as I can.
And sometimes I can’t keep up, BUT I know that I’ve pushed harder TRYING to keep up than I would have on my own.
It isn’t about “beating” the other person. It is about the support of having someone else battling right next to you. It is about the competition to push just that little bit harder.
So next time you shy away from working out with your friend/family member/spouse/random person at the gym because you are worried that they are more fit/stronger/faster than you, DON’T (ok…maybe you can shy away from the random person at the gym…but only maybe…).
Who cares if you beat the other person!?! If having someone there that you are “competing” against pushes you to work harder than you would have on your own, then you won! You won because you just got fitter/stronger/faster!
So seek out a little friendly competition in your workouts. It may just be the support you need to reach your goals!
So every once in a while, not too often of course, you catch the nice, sappy side of me. Today is one of those days. Lucky you…NOT!
Five years ago to date, I met the love of my life.
BAM! Didn’t expect to see those words on a health and fitness blog did you? Well now you have!
And Ryan, the love of my life, has supported me in every endeavor since the day we met – through the good times and the bad.
He’s a big part of the reason why I committed 90 days of my life to the most awful low-fat, low carb diet. I swear I’ve never once LITERALLY salivated because of food on the TV since that diet.
He’s also a big part of the reason why I went Primal and finally became a personal trainer. He helped me discover the lifestyle I want to lead!
Every time I’ve said I wanted to try something, Ryan encourages me to pursue it (of course he only encourages me to follow GOOD ideas).
He’s never let’s me give up on myself and that has made me a better, stronger, more confident me.
I’ve tried things just in this past year that I never thought I would try. I’ve tried them partly because of Ryan’s direct encouragement and partly because he has made me way more confident in myself.
His SUPPORT has been essential to not only my diet and fitness but also to my personal development.
He has been there right beside me every step of the way. For two months, when I wanted to really fully develop the Man Bicep diet program, he followed the exact same diet that I did. It was pinned to our refrigerator so neither one of us would be tempted to cheat. He kept me honest then and he kept me honest when I wanted to cut a bit of weight after the holidays to guarantee I could compete in the 123 weight class.
When I started lifting heavy and decided I wanted to do a powerlifting competition, he fully supported me. He wasn’t there lifting with me but he always asked how everything was going. He supported me by always being interested in my training. And he committed a full day off to come to my competition and document everything. He even made a video for me afterwards and encouraged me to share my story!
Anytime I throw out ideas he discusses them with me and encourages me to pursue my passion. I mean shoot, he freaking spent 3 hours taking fitness photos of me at 4 am on a Saturday morning! If that isn’t love I don’t know what is!
And he has never stopped supporting me. He has supported me through every major decision I’ve made in the last five years and played a huge roll in me starting up this blog…At the beginning, he was sometimes even my only reader. (Then I told my mom about it and I had two readers!)
But anyway, the point is, he read it…every day. And now, he listens to me talk about it just about every single day. (And trust me…boy can I talk his ear off!)
Anyway, that is enough sappy-ness for now. Happy 5 years Ryan. You are the Type B to my Type A.
(I know you are probably reading this about two seconds after I post it and I love you all the more for it!)