When was the last time you did this? When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and was like, “I love everything about myself.”
Heck when was the last time that you looked in the mirror and didn’t instantly start focusing on all the things you would like to change?
Probably never or at least not very recently I’m guessing.
And that is just sad.
So often as adults all we focus on are the things about ourselves that we want to change – the things about ourselves that we don’t like.
When did we lose the courage to say, “I love myself?”
Because, honestly, I don’t believe it isn’t that we don’t see our good points. We do recognize our good points, we just don’t focus on them because we are afraid that everyone else sees our flaws and will think that we are cocky or full of ourselves or delusional if we say we love something about ourselves.
When in reality, we focus way more on our flaws than ANYONE else out there does.
We are our own harshest critics. And I firmly believe that.
We set our own limits. We push ourselves down.
We can say that magazines present unrealistic body images. We can can say society presents unrealistic standards.
And yes, those societal standards do seep into our brains as we age so that we can’t, with the same abandon as Jessica, say we love ourselves.
But despite what society tells you, I guarantee that there are traits that aren’t deemed beautiful or wonderful by society that you love about yourself. Yet, because society doesn’t value them, you are too afraid to admit your beauty out loud.
YOU hold yourself back.
When will it stop?
When will you muster the courage to admit that you love yourself? Flaws and all.
When will you stop picking and pushing and start enjoying and celebrating?
When will you stop setting boundaries and limits and instead look at the world and yourself for all that you have to offer?
Society isn’t going to change. Magazines. TV. Ads. Aren’t going to change….
Until we do.
So start creating change by changing your opinion of yourself. Tomorrow, look in that mirror and focus on what you LOVE not what you’d change…
And if you happen to do a little dance while looking in that mirror…well that is fine too!
No one’s judging except you.
I just want to start off by saying, “I sweat A LOT when I workout.”
I literally drip.
I’ve even been told I look like a drowned rat.
I would definitely not win any beauty pageants.
Why do you want to know this?
Actually you probably don’t. But too bad! (And I’m pretty sure I’ve said this before so it should come as no surprise!)
The reason I’m telling you this is because working hard in the gym isn’t always about looking good. You’ve got to get down and dirty to get some results.
Granted you don’t have to sweat as much as me, but working up a little sweat at least is good!
Actually, why is it that women seem so much more concerned with looking “cute” in the gym than men do? (Or maybe men actually think they look good in their stained armpit shirts….)
Don’t get me wrong here. I love cute gym clothes. I just can’t bring myself to care though how I look when I workout. I actually even like to try to save my cute workout clothes for when I’m not working out and instead wear big, old, stained t-shirts when I am!
What type of woman are you? Do you dress up for the gym? If you dress up for the gym, why do you do it?
Also, are cute workout clothes just another way for us to feminize the gym a bit more?…What do you think?
What is beautiful?
Seriously is there really one universal definition?
I DON’T THINK SO!
Working in a gym, where you constantly hear people commenting on other people’s bodies, you begin to realize that everyone really does have a different definition of what is beautiful. (Especially men and women.)
It seems that every male trainer at the gym loves women with big butts, yet most women are working out to try to firm, tone and shrink their rears.
Even women differ in their opinions of what is feminine beauty. Just think about what female movie stars you think are the MOST attractive. I guarantee not everyone agrees with you!
I mean part of the reason I was so motivated to start this blog was because women are afraid to lift weights because they don’t want to look bulky or overly muscled! Many women don’t find muscle attractive!
The numerous articles about famous actresses, singers and such with muscle who are ridiculed are proof of the fact that women (and men) don’t find muscled women attractive…like the articles about Cameron Diaz. Personally, I don’t think she is too muscled (maybe on the skinny side…but not too muscled).
Anyway, the point is no one has the exact same view of what is beautiful.
So what are we really all striving toward?
Shouldn’t we all just be seeking to make our bodies the best that they can be naturally while still being able to enjoy our life?
I mean…aren’t we women much harsher in our criticisms of our own bodies than anyone else is? We seem to obsess over every little flaw – every eyebrow hair that is out-of-place (ok maybe the eyebrow hair thing is just me…)
But what are we obsessing for?
No one is perfect. And there will also be people who find you beautiful as is or that think you need a bigger/smaller waist/butt/arm…anything.
Beauty is such a fluid thing with so many definitions…so why can’t we just be happy and content with the fact that we do everything we can while still living our lives to the fullest?!
Why can’t we all just be happy with the bodies we have and know that they are each beautiful in their own ways!?!