Let’s face it, if you want something bad enough, you are going to do whatever it takes to get there.
“Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
End of story.
And I’m getting really sick of all the excuses that we make about why we CAN’T live a healthier lifestyle.
Not enough time. Too tired. Too busy. It’s not working quick enough. Stress. I NEED the bad food. I NEED the cheat. Healthy food is too expensive. There aren’t options easily available. I don’t like it. I don’t know how. I’m just not one of those people. At least it is better…Right? I can’t do that…..
I’m pretty sure everyone out there has said at least one of those at some point.
And frankly, they are just all excuses.
We all make them, myself included, but that doesn’t change the fact that they are simply excuses – they are simply us letting ourselves off the hook for something we know we SHOULD be doing.
And we only seem to make excuses when we don’t value our goal enough. Because let’s face it, if you have a powerful reason WHY you want to accomplish something, you are going to make it happen. As I said before, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
So if you figure out WHY your goal is truly important to you, your WILL will be strong enough to find a way.
Oh but…You DO really really want to feel like you are in better shape. You really do want to workout 3 times a week.
There just truly isn’t time for you to go to the gym.
For one, you don’t need to go to the gym. Here is a body weight workout you can do at home.
Two, you don’t need that much time to workout! Really you don’t have 15 minutes three days each week to workout!?! Really!?!
That’s right…You DO actually have time. You just haven’t sought out a way to make it happen.
Instead you’ve just made excuses.
Same goes for healthy eating. People tell me they don’t have time to cook. Or that eating healthily is just too expensive.
Honestly, those excuses are both CRAP.
For one, it doesn’t take that long to cook especially if you just take one day and prep meals for the entire week.
Two, there are LOTS of places to buy great, healthy foods that aren’t that expensive. Even Walmart is now carrying local produce! And farmer’s markets are another great less expensive option.
Three, you can do lots of quick fixes to make things healthier without spending more money.
Can’t spring for grass-fed beef?
Fine…But make your traditionally farmed meat better by cooking it in grass-fed butter, olive oil or coconut oil.
There are small little changes you can make, that aren’t more expensive, that can make a big difference!
So take a couple of minutes this weekend and think about all of the reasons WHY you CAN’T do something.
Then make a decision…
Do you really want to accomplish your goal?
If the answer is truly yes, they buckle down and find a way to overcome the excuses.
Stop giving yourself the option to fail. Buckle down and DO IT!
Recently I’ve been doing a lot of writing (most of these posts are yet unpublished) about finding your WHY.
The reason WHY you are committing to a healthy lifestyle…but not just the superficial reasons.
Those deep dark reasons that keep you coming back for more no matter what else is going on in your life.
The reason that would keep you coming back even if you didn’t make money or get any recognition for what you’d done.
And this got me to thinking about my true WHY.
Why did I really want to become a trainer? Why did I want to dedicate my life to health and fitness?
It’s funny…When I started as a trainer, I did it because I loved fitness. My why, I thought, was a passion for health and fitness.
But the reason I continued as a trainer wasn’t because I loved fitness so much – it was because I loved people.
If I could do one thing every day, it would be to make at least one person realize their own strength and feel more confident and happy about who they are.
And more specifically, I want to empower women.
Don’t get me wrong…I love improving the health of all my male clients. I love making them stronger and more confident and happy about how they feel. I love seeing their progress in the health and fitness realm carry over into every day life.
BUT my true why is empowering women.
I think this whole empowering thing was bred into me at an early age by my mother who loved to read me fairy tales where the princess rescued herself and sometimes even the prince.
I’ve always been on a quest to be strong, self-confident and independent.
And for me…sports became a way to develop these things.
There is just something about lifting heavy weights or pulling out grueling matches or games that makes you feel so freaking strong.
The victory of doing something as simple as lifting a heavier weight than you lifted before is empowering.
It doesn’t just make you feel better about your fitness – it carries over into every aspect of your life.
And while I think lifting heavy can empower men, I think it has an even bigger effect on women.
I really do feel like most women aren’t raised to want to be super strong, independent, self-confident and empowered individuals.
I feel that most women believe they are supposed to suffer in silence and want only what is best for others – I believe that many women are raised to try to see themselves as selfless individuals.
Which don’t get me wrong, can be a good thing. It is great to put others first.
BUT how can you really serve others if you don’t take care of your own needs first?
If you aren’t truly your own person, how can you really be there for anyone else?
Anyway, I believe that through sports and heavy lifting, specifically, women can develop a clear and empowered sense of self.
I know I did.
And well….my WHY is to share this with as many women as possible. I’ve seen it work. I’ve seen women grow stronger and more confident right before my eyes.
I’ve seen women give themselves permission to embrace qualities of themselves that they didn’t realize they had before.
I’ve seen women who once said to me, “I’m not strong and confident like you” become incredibly empowered, strong and self-confident individuals who could hold their own against any challenger.
I’ve seen women reach beyond what they once thought possible because they became more empowered simply by lifting heavy.
Lifting heavy is empowering. I saw myself grow and change because of it. And my WHY is that I want to help as many women as I can realize just how strong and wonderful they truly are!
Maybe this post is too philosophical for a Thursday, but heck it is 75, I just went for a run on the beach (YAY and ICK) and am now relaxing with a cider on my afternoon off. So…well…bear with me!
So before the weekend I wrote a post about you PUSHING YOURSELF – about you MOTIVATING yourself.
I wrote that you need to motivate yourself if you really want to get the most out of any workout that you do. I wrote that you don’t need fancy moves or to do things at break-neck speed to have a great workout.
But I didn’t get into HOW you motivate yourself.
Then this weekend I attend a Training for Warriors certification course, which was absolutely amazing. (I’ve honestly never enjoyed a seminar so much! Anyway, more about the course later…)
But one thing I really want to discuss now after my post last week is what Martin Rooney said about motivating yourself….He said you have to have a big enough “WHY.”
When you have a big enough reason as to WHY you should do something, you will do it.
So if you have a big enough reason WHY you should push yourself during a workout or WHY you should eat well, you are going to do it.
Which honestly makes perfect sense. Saying you want to be healthy or be in shape isn’t a clear WHY. There also is no TIMELINE in which you want to accomplish the goal so why work hard right now?
But a wedding or a competition or any other BIG EVENT is a great motivator because it does give you a reason, a WHY, you should be committed and work hard right now.
So then the question arises of, “How do you motivate yourself when there is no big event, BUT you still need to eat well and workout because you logically know it is the right thing to do and you want to live a long healthy life.”
How do you get that sense of urgency that a big event creates when realistically you are just trying to make healthy habits a way of life?
You create that big event. You don’t allow yourself to slack off and put things off. You set immediate and pressing goals that force you to get started!
They don’t have to be huge daunting goals they just have to be something that you can measure that have some sort of reward or consequence.
I know I definitely am more committed and focused when I have a “big” event. When I wanted to hit those VersaClimber mile-markers, I did everything I could to reach that goal. I stayed focused on working hard each and every workout. I made sure to do the proper recovery in between. I made sure to get enough sleep and to eat well EVEN when it meant not binging on Thanksgiving.
I had a big enough WHY. I didn’t just want to hit the mile-markers…I also wanted to be the first woman to do it at our gym, which meant that I couldn’t wait – I needed to start training and do it NOW.
I had a sense of urgency which made my reason for working out even more important – it gave me a big WHY that wouldn’t let me put off training and made me give everything I had each and every day.
So even if you don’t have a big event coming up, create one. Give yourself a real reason to do all the things you want or know you should do, but haven’t done.
Create “tests” at the end of each month to monitor your progress. Have weigh ins. Have performance evaluations. See if you can do better each and every time.
Heck maybe even add in a little competition. I know that when I’m competing against other people I definitely push harder!
Take a second and really hammer in WHY you should achieve some of the things you’ve been slacking on…like eating well or working out. You may just then get the results that you’ve always wanted!